| Companionate love | A feeling of deep attachment and commitment to a person with whom one has an intimate relationship.
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| Documenting | Giving specific examples of the issue being discussed.
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| Editing | Censoring or not saying things that would be deliberately hurtful to your partner or that are irrelevant.
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| Effective communicator | A communicator whose impact matches his or her intent.
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| Fighting fair | A set of rules designed to make arguments constructive rather than destructive.
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| Homophily | The tendency to have contact with people who are equal in social status.
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| "I" language | Speaking for yourself, using the word "I"; not mind reading.
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| Impact | What someone else understands the speaker to mean.
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| Intent | What the speaker means.
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| Intimacy | A quality of relationships characterized by commitment, feelings of closeness and trust, and self-disclosure.
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| Leveling | Telling your partner what you are feeling by stating your thoughts clearly, simply, and honestly.
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| Love story | A story about what love should be like, including characters, a plot, and a theme.
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| Matching phenomenon | The tendency for men and women to choose as partners people who match them, that is, who are similar in attitudes, intelligence, and attractiveness.
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| Mere-exposure effect | The tendency to like a person more if we have been exposed to him or her repeatedly.
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| Mind reading | Making assumptions about what your partner thinks or feels.
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| Misattribution of arousal | When a person in a stage of physiological arousal (e.g., from exercising or being in a frightening situation) attributes these feelings to love or attraction to the person present.
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| Nonverbal communication | Communication not through words, but through the body, e.g., eye contact, tone of voice, touching.
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| Operational definition | Defining some concept or term by how it is measured, for example, defining intelligence as those abilities that are measured by IQ tests.
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| Paraphrasing | Saying, in your own words, what you thought your partner meant.
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| Passionate love | A state of intense longing for union with the other person and of intense physiological arousal.
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| Self-disclosure | Telling personal things about yourself.
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| Two-component theory of love | Berscheid and Walster's theory that two conditions must exist simultaneously for passionate love to occur: physiological arousal and attaching a cognitive label ("love") to the feeling.
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| Validation | Telling your partner that, given his or her point of view, you can see why he or she thinks a certain way.
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