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Which of the following is the correct sequence for the steps in the coming together of a relationship? |
| | A) | experimenting, bonding, integrating |
| | B) | integrating, intensifying, experimenting |
| | C) | bonding, experimenting, intensifying |
| | D) | experimenting, intensifying, bonding |
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Which of the steps in the process of coming together in a relationship is incorrectly described? |
| | A) | Experimenting: the stage when each person begins to express ideas, attitudes and values to see how the other person will react. |
| | B) | Intensifying: conversations are filled with shared assumptions and experiences. |
| | C) | Integrating: personalities begin to merge and the two share most of their activities. |
| | D) | Bonding: a romantic commitment is made. |
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Which of the following is the correct sequence for the steps of a relationship that is coming apart? |
| | A) | circumscribing, differentiating, stagnating |
| | B) | differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating |
| | C) | stagnating, circumscribing, avoiding |
| | D) | circumscribing, avoiding, stagnating |
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Which step in the process of coming apart is incorrectly described? |
| | A) | Stagnating: physical separation occurs. |
| | B) | Differentiating: the couple focuses on their differences. |
| | C) | Circumscribing: conversations become briefer, more shallow and less often. |
| | D) | Avoiding: unfriendliness, hostility and antagonism are characteristic. |
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Verbal skills and emotional expressiveness are two important aspects of good relationships. Which statement about both of these is accurate? |
| | A) | A rich vocabulary and understanding of language are probably more essential than the motivation to talk. |
| | B) | Females begin talking earlier than males, which gives them an advantage in these areas. |
| | C) | Males may score as well as females on language aptitude tests, but they are still less comfortable expressing their emotions. |
| | D) | Females are more likely to avoid conflict than males. |
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In the description of several of the components of good relationships, much advice is given to men. Which of these is NOT advice given to them? |
| | A) | Under conversational focus, men are encouraged to talk more about their relationships and how they feel about them. |
| | B) | Under nonverbal analysis, men are urged to increase their sensitivity to nonverbal clues. |
| | C) | Under commitment, men are exhorted to be aware of the unwritten conditions they hold before making a commitment. |
| | D) | Under conversational encouragement, men are warned that by keeping their responses and feelings to themselves, they make it more likely that their partner will misinterpret them as being uninterested. |
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Which statement about aggressive talk is false? |
| | A) | "You are a loser" is an example. |
| | B) | It involves criticizing and complaining in an attacking way. |
| | C) | It is only justified in sports contests and the military. |
| | D) | It may be expressed indirectly by people who feel powerless. |
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What statement about regrettable talk is incorrect? |
| | A) | Usually such statements harm the relationship to the point that it can not be repaired. |
| | B) | Usually people realize immediately when they say something inappropriate. |
| | C) | This involves saying something inappropriate and embarrassing someone. |
| | D) | More often than not, no harm was intended by the speaker. |
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In the discussion of communication problems, the overriding assessment is that |
| | A) | the most important factor is nonverbal communication. |
| | B) | the partner's response to the first comment determines how the quarrel will proceed. |
| | C) | the way something is said is the most crucial factor. |
| | D) | whether the criticism is constructive is a major aspect. |
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In analyzing criticism, which statement is true? |
| | A) | When partners are equal, criticism can come from either person. |
| | B) | The most common target is personal appearance, according to studies. |
| | C) | Criticism usually originates from the lower-status person who resents being in a powerless position. |
| | D) | Only bad criticism contains negative words. |
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Considering defensive communication, which of the following categories of behavior describes a supportive climate? |
| | A) | strategy |
| | B) | neutrality |
| | C) | provisionalism |
| | D) | certainty |
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Which statement about renegotiating roles is FALSE? |
| | A) | This is most crucial in the first five years of a relationship. |
| | B) | An understanding of the expectations of each role is an important basis for renegotiating. |
| | C) | Both parties must agree to the change in roles for the process to be successful. |
| | D) | Changes that are not seen as in the best interest of both parties are hard to negotiate. |
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When the author discusses communication solutions in relationships, which of the following solutions is NOT mentioned? |
| | A) | renegotiating the ratio of costs and rewards in the relationship |
| | B) | practicing empathic listening |
| | C) | sending "I" messages, which do not arouse the defenses of the listener |
| | D) | expressing your feelings assertively, which means directly and clearly |
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What is the correct order for the first three steps in conflict resolution? |
| | A) | discussing shared goals, an intrapersonal evaluation, an interpersonal evaluation |
| | B) | an interpersonal evaluation, discussing shared goals, an intrapersonal evaluation |
| | C) | an intrapersonal evaluation, an interpersonal evaluation, discussing shared goals |
| | D) | an interpersonal evaluation, an intrapersonal evaluation, discussing shared goals |
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Which statement correctly describes the process of conflict resolution? |
| | A) | It is an effort to agree on a win-win solution. |
| | B) | If the steps are carefully followed, it is virtually foolproof. |
| | C) | A third party who is neutral is needed to help the partners negotiate. |
| | D) | It is dangerous to wait too long after finishing the process for an overall assessment. |
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What is the name of this stage of conflict resolution when the partners get together to work out their definition of the problem, being careful to listen to each other and to talk assertively? |
| | A) | evaluating the costs and rewards |
| | B) | listening empathically |
| | C) | agreeing on an interpersonal definition of the problem |
| | D) | describing a win-win situation |
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The author claims that, ultimately, the one factor that causes the most problems in relationships is that we |
| | A) | don't understand how to communicate. |
| | B) | take relationships for granted and don't put enough effort into maintaining them. |
| | C) | don't think before speaking. |
| | D) | don't think of the other person before speaking. |
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Hybels lists a number of linguistic booby traps that undermine a relationship. "You think you have a problem with your boss? Listen to what happened to me today!" is an example of |
| | A) | unsolicited advice. |
| | B) | a prophecy. |
| | C) | hijacking. |
| | D) | a sermon. |
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The term "repair attempt" refers to |
| | A) | refusing to resort to sermons in an effort to change the partner. |
| | B) | agreeing to remain serious and not use humor to defuse the situation. |
| | C) | refraining from the use of epithets and names to put down the partner. |
| | D) | reaching out to prevent negativity from spinning out of control. |
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The final stage of the process of conflict resolution is evaluating the solution. Which statement best describes this stage? |
| | A) | It should take place within 24 hours of the partners' final agreement on the best solution, while memories are still fresh. |
| | B) | It should involve a trained negotiator, even if the rest of the process has not. |
| | C) | It should always lead to a win-win situation, if the steps have been followed properly. |
| | D) | It should be done some time later, because human behavior does not change overnight. |
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Which of these components is least important in assessing a relationship? |
| | A) | The relationship should provide a psychological space where each person can be his/her truest self. |
| | B) | Intimacy and self-disclosure should be present. |
| | C) | Both partners should feel comfortable sharing both the good and the bad. |
| | D) | Both partners should be willing to make concessions to avoid having too many conflicts. |
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