As a conflict unfolds, topic, relational, identity,
and process goals emerge (TRIP). Topic goals are
the “objective,” verifiable issues that people talk
about. Relationship goals are those pertaining to
the parties’ influence on each other. Who gets to
decide, how they treat one another, and other
aspects of their communication are relationship
goals. Identity, or face-saving, goals have to do
with the needs of people to present themselves
positively in interactions and to be treated with
approval and respect. Process goals refer to parties’
interests in how the interaction is conducted.
Although most conflict parties center their discus-
sions on content and process goals, the relation-
ship and identity components often fuel the feeling
in a given conflict. Goals change in the course of a conflict.
Prospective goals are those identified before inter-
acting with the other parties. Transactive goals
emerge during the communication exchanges.
Transactive goals often shift; a destructive conflict
is characterized by a shift from original goals to a
desire to harm the other party. Retrospective goals
are identified after the conflict episodes have
occurred. Unregulated, unplanned, fast-paced con-
flicts keep many people from understanding their
goals until they later have time to reflect on the
transactions. Productive conflict management is enhanced
by clarifying your goals, better estimating the
other’s goals, and working to build collaborative
goals. Working against or without consulting
the other party often sets destructive forces in
motion that preclude integrative management of
the conflict. |